terms & conditions

I will swear in my posts. Not the most important thing, but as the rest of these terms and conditions contain swears, I felt it was a good place to start. I have always been a bit of a swearer, but didn’t swear in any kind of public social media to be respectful of my friends/family/followers who are offended by swear words. Well, to me they are just words. And they are very effective for me to convey my emotions. If this bothers you, I respect that, and also just don’t read my blog. And maybe just stop here because, as already mentioned, the rest of these terms and conditions contain swears.
I have turned off commenting. This was very intentional. This blog is now for me and all about my actual existential dilemmas. It helps to think about an “audience” as I’m writing, but not for the purposes of filtering for that audience or wanting validation. If it’s helpful for any readers, awesome. If not, that’s okay.
If you know me personally and want to share some love for anything I’ve written, great. You know how to get in touch with me. If you have a difference of opinion or hate something I wrote or are sad because I seem sad/angry/frustrated, you are totally entitled to your opinions and feelings…AND I don’t give a shit and don’t want to hear about it. And I still love you. This might sound bitchy…because sometimes setting boundaries can sound bitchy. (There’s a great Brene Brown video here that I highly recommend if you don’t understand the importance of setting boundaries.)
This blog is no longer going to be about my travels and cooking and all the “fun” stuff, but the emotional work that I doing. My instagram still has the fun stuff and you can follow me there. I may occasionally post some of the fun stuff, but it will be with an emotional purpose.
I’m no longer a practicing or believing Mormon. I am not likely going to get into the reasons I left the Mormon church, but I will definitely be processing stuff related to my exit as it’s part of my daily life. This might be offensive to those of you still practicing/believing. If you don’t want to read about it, that is totally valid. We all need to do what works for us. I respect that. If you are still practicing and do choose to read it, DO NOT send me messages bearing your testimony, or telling me you hope I’ll come back, or links to great talks that helped you stay or that you think I might find valuable, or telling me how sad this makes you, or giving me advice for what I need to do to have enough faith. This has been a five-year plus process. I’m sorry if it’s shocking to you because I haven’t openly shared the struggle I’ve been going through. I have read all the talks, prayed all the prayers, tried all things. I made every effort possible to stay. I did not want to leave. I wanted it to work. It didn’t. And now I’m done. Please respect that decision. If it makes you sad that I left, that’s okay. You can be sad. You can feel however you feel and those feelings are valid. Just don’t tell me about them.
I reserve the right to update these terms and conditions regularly.